Taking a Second Honeymoon
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Taking a second honeymoon is a very common practice of most Baby Boomers to enliven their marriage relationships and spark a more intimate marriage. Do your remember your first honeymoon? It probably was a special time, no matter the circumstances. Before we got married, I asked my wife where she wanted to go.
Her immediate response was: "Out of the Country!" So we drove from Janesville, Wisconsin to Chicago and flew to Mexico City the day after our wedding. Fortunately, she was fluent in Spanish and taught me the key phrases, like "Buenos Dias" and "Gracias." We visited the Zocolo, the Toltec Pyramids, visited the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe, and spent precious time together.
The Baby Boomer generation is one of the wealthiest social classes to exist in the United States, so the economics of traveling to take a second honeymoon are fairly reasonable. But, you don't have to go far. For a moment, think back to the definition of what a honeymoon is. One dictionary definition is "a holiday or trip taken by a newly married couple."
Another description is, "a period of unusual harmony at the beginning of a relationship." Both of these definitions relate to something new and something early in a relationship.
The first one or two years of marriage are often called the "honeymoon years." Those years offer a unique time to discover the wonder of our spouse and to learn about ourselves. The honeymoon years can set the stage for a happy marriage.
But a lasting marriage consists of everyday honeymoons that a husband can show his wife how he cherishes her. Ralph and Alice Crandon, in the Honeymooners, kept their marriage intact through ongoing "conversation."
Second Honeymoons Make Marriages Better
Taking time out for special communication in your marriage is like having an everyday second honeymoon. That time can involve a special event, a dinner, or other personal gifts for your wife. Here are four ways you can stir up the flames of romance in an intimate marriage in your everyday life:
Plan a Trip
A married couple doesn't have to wait for an anniversary to make travel
plans. There are plenty of on-line resources, like Orbitz, Travelocity or Expedia.com
which offer getaway romance packages to many interesting places. Whether it's
a four-day cruise, snorkeling in Maui or a stay at a bed-and-breakfast in Door
county, a romantic getaway can please and surprise your spouse.
Arrange an Intimate Rendezvous
How about meeting at a favorite restaurant or trying something elegant?
Consider a carriage ride or even a hay ride for cuddling. Perhaps there is a
local winery, a museum or a botanical garden that one or both of you have been
waiting to visit and enjoy together.
Cuddle Up: Have a Romantic Dinner Night at Home
Movie rentals are very inexpensive today, whether through Blockbuster,
Netflix or your local video rental store. Pick a romantic theme, perhaps even
a classic movie with Humphrey Bogart. Stay away from action flicks, horror and
anti-marriage themes. Here's an even more romantic idea - hire a caterer to
deliver a delicious dinner or engage a local chef to prepare an exquisite meal
in your home, just for the two of you!
Make Love to Each Other
Take a walk through your local forest preserve holding hands. Touch
each other with love and gentleness. Have great sex. Turn off the TV and look
at each other. Make sure that your spouse knows that you are the only one for
her or him.
Caution! Taking an everyday second honeymoon can be habit forming. But what better habit can a husband have, than loving his wife.
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