Successful Web Dating For Men
By Kerry Graylor
People love web dating, because it offers a certain anonymity that allows them to get to know each other in a safe environment in the beginning. The problem is that for many women especially, it is hard to move beyond that environment.
Most women are very frightened of meeting the men that they have been happily chatting with online. The biggest reason for this is that they are constantly hearing about the scary things that can happen. They do have good reason to think this way. Sure, you are a nice guy and a gentleman, but they do not know that for sure. The more you push them to give out their phone number or last name or, scariest of all, to meet you, the more they will pull away.
The way to handle this is to be patient. Do not even ask for information about where she lives or works. For example, imagine she tells you she is in real estate. It might be natural to you to ask her which company she works for, since you have a friend in real estate and you're wondering if they may know each other.
But her first thought will be that if she gives you the name of her company, she might find you waiting outside her office one dark night when the other staff have gone home. You know there's no way you would do anything like that, but she doesn't. So don't ask that kind of question.
Keep your online conversations fun and light, and after a while if you are getting along well, try suggesting talking on the phone. Don't ask for her number but give her yours and suggest that she phones you. If she prefers that you call her, she will say so. After you have talked on the phone a couple times she will have much more of an idea of whether she trusts you and then you can suggest a face to face meeting.
Make it something that either of you can easily get away from if you are not comfortable. Lunch is often good. Why not let her decide on the place? She will feel more comfortable in a place that she knows. If she still hesitates, you could even suggest that she brings a friend along. Hey, that way you get to meet two new women.
Finally, always be honest about your physical appearance, your age and your job. It is a good idea to post several photos of yourself in different situations, and update them often. People who are posting false photos usually only have one picture of the person they are claiming to be.
Understanding women and how they feel about web dating can give you a huge advantage online. Pick up more dating information and increase your chances!
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