Some Marriage Advice for Those Wanting a Divorce
By Anonymous
What woman or man does not dream of meeting that perfect person who they want to spend the rest of their life with? It is like an old movie: They meet, fall in love, have the perfect wedding, and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, once you are married, that is when the trouble starts. You discover that it is not easy living with this other person.
What makes it worse is that most people enter the marriage very self-centered. It is the way our culture is. Each of us expects the other to be the servant while we dictate what is to be done and how to do it. When we get married and find that the other person expects us to serve them, trouble starts unless we are able to give ourselves to the other person. The best marriages are the ones where each has learned how to serve the other.
It is not easy. Learning to serve takes patience, humility, and maturity. Very few people enter a marriage with these character traits. But they can be acquired. So here is some marriage advice to get your relationship going in the right direction.
Start by relaxing. Do not be tense. As you are driving home from work take some deep breaths, listen to some quiet music, and tell yourself that you can not wait to get home and spend time with your family. Leave your job at your place of employment. Come home ready to listen and to serve.
One of the worst things a husband can do is sit down in front of the television, remote control in hand, and start flipping through the channels. That might be what he feels like doing, but what about his wife? Does he think she enjoys watching snippets of TV? Or is she working to clean up the kitchen, standing at the sink with a pile of dirty dishes, pots and pans to wash? How would she feel if he joined her in the kitchen to help with the dishes? She would think he was fantastic.
Also, stop expecting things to go your way. Be happy when something good happens to your spouse. It is kind of like being happy when the other person gets the bigger piece of cake. What about when your husband gets a pay raise and you are still earning the same as ten years ago? Can you celebrate with your husband instead of complaining? What if your husband comes home excited to say his parents are coming to visit for a week? Can you share his joy even though it means extra work for you?
There are many ways that each spouse can show they care about the other. It starts with a heart that is humble and ready to serve. These are two of the characteristics that promote maturity and that lead to a happy and fulfilling marriage.
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