Online Dating For Women -- 3 Mistakes To Avoid
By Kerry Graylor
While there are some huge advantages to online dating for women these days, it is important not to assume that because you are online and anonymous, you can write and say whatever you want. Of course in a sense you can, but you will have more success with men if you follow certain guidelines.
I am assuming you already know how to stay safe online. A good dating site will publish advice which you should read and follow if you are at all uncertain of what the guidance is. Taking that as understood, here are three big mistakes which many women make in their internet dating careers, and which you should be sure to avoid.
- Do not write too much in your emails or your IM messages. Some women go ahead and write their whole life story in their first email. No man wants to wade through all of that from someone he doesn't even know! Heck, he probably wouldn't even read it if it came from someone he did know ... well, maybe just the first and last sentences, to be polite. Keep your messages short and sweet, and if he asks you questions, just answer them very simply. For example, if he asks you how many brothers you have, he expects the answer to be a number. Not five paragraphs on the history of their marriages and the names, birth weights and favorite foods of all of their kids.
- Never lie. Ever. About anything. If you do not want to answer a question you can say so, maybe with a little comment about saving it for later, but do not tell a lie. Remember that you do not have to attract everybody, just the person who will love you for who you are. Eventually, when you get to know a guy well, he will find out any little lies that you told and you cannot assume that he will not remember or care. He probably will remember, and although he may not care how much you earn or whether your divorce is final yet, he will care that you lied.
- Do not seem too eager, needy or desperate. This really turns a man off. They want to be hunters and conquerors and they quickly lose interest if you make it too easy. This does not mean that you have to play hard to get and push him away, but just wait for him to make most of the moves. Do not email him too often or (worse) ask why he didn't email you again yet. Do not be the first to suggest meeting or talking on the phone. Play it cool.
To sum up, keep it short, keep it honest and keep it cool. If you can follow these simple rules and stay safe too, you should find that online dating for women is an absolute breeze.
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